“A man who has not prepared his children for his own death has failed as a father.” King T’CHAKA said this to his son, T’Challa, or better known as The Black Panther. Both are fictional characters, but the message is real and it resonates very much with me.

It is one of the biggest worries that keep me sleepless at night, always wondered if I have taught my children enough, especially now that they are still too young to understand most of what I have to say to them. But do I wait until they are grown? I don’t know if I’ll live that long. Hence, I started to jot down short messages like what you’ll read here, that were for my children in case I have to leave this world too soon. I’m not preparing for my death yet, I’m just living as though I’m dying tomorrow.

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My message to my sons

When both of you were little, every time when you won a game (of Fortnite, of course!) you had to come and announced it to me, with so much pride and excitement! I imagine, what other greater win you will score one day. And in case you do, and if I’m no longer around, should you look up to the sky and wonder if I’m witnessing it, I’d like you to know, my sons: I already knew you’d win. I was already proud of both of you from the day you came into my life! Now go celebrate your victory!

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My message to my sons

When you are young, your job is to acquire knowledge. That’s why we send you to school. You may not enjoy school, I don’t expect you to (because neither did I!) But think about this: You only need to do this for about 10–14 years (or more if you like!) Do it well, and you will have the power to choose what you want to be or do in the next 40 years or more. It’s a good trade off!

Learn to do things you don’t like to do when you are young, so you can do the things you like when you are old!

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My message to my sons

No one has ever lost at the finishing line. The losers usually lost it half way through, or never started at all.

For my jump rope routines, I will always do at least 2 to 3 sets. First set is usually harder and trying, mainly because my body is still warming up and trying to get to the rhythm. I would like to akin this many things we do in life, whether we are trying to learn some new skills, or trying to get better at our study or job, the starting will always be harder, we will be tempted to quit. Here’s the thing, as long as we continue to try, we will not lose. We lose the moment we decide to quit.

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Dean Loh

Dean Loh

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I’m using this space for jotting down my messages for my sons, for them to read when I’m gone.